As you already know scientists (what sort of scientists research such stuff anyway?) haven’t come out with any proof behind the kneading habits of the kitties. But that does not limit us from making predictions and intriguing analytical observations. We can look at the many possible explanations provided by cat specialists around the globe and choose for yourself the one which makes more sense. Many often ask, why does my cat knead me but not my husband? To find the answer go through our short and informative guide!
Why Does My Cat Knead Me But Not My Husband
It is not possible to understand scientifically the principal reason why cats knead. Similarly, you will not be able to know why cats prefer someone over the others to knead, but we can guess, perhaps it is her fondness of that particular person have something to do with it. This discussion today will be based upon many interesting theories and opinions by people who understand cats well as to why cats knead and their kneading choices.
Bond and Liking
First things first! It goes without saying that there has to be some sort of attachment behind cats kneading habits. Anybody can guess this act of kneading by the cats occurs as a result of having a liking for an individual.
Kneading is a kind of behavior that displays feelings of happiness and security. So, you can guess that it is because she is more bonded to you than your husband, that your kitty kneads you but not your husband.
Now, if your husband is upset and jealous (I really hope, he is not) that your cat kneads you but not him. I would definitely suggest him to spend time with the cat. Make a stronger bond of friendship and see if she ends up kneading him as well or not.
What Are You Doing For Your Cat?
In terms of getting the honor of being kneaded by a cat, a ‘’hooman” has to perform certain duties for his/her kitty. It is seen that cats grow a liking to the person who plays with her all the time. Further, if you clean her poops and groom her well she will get attached to you very quickly.
Now, as I can guess, the activities I mentioned are perhaps performed by you not your husband. If that is the case then it is time to shift your roles. Show your husband how you do those things and tell him not to be lazy in terms of caring for the kitty. Hope soon he will get the receive the kneading badge of honor from your kitty.
Have You become Her Mom?!
Although it may sound strange and awkward to you, it very well can be the case here. There is a strong possibility that your kitty thinks you are her mom if you have brought her at a young age. Cats do this particular act of kneading on her mother. Kittens tend to knead her mom so that she gives them milk.
If your husband is not being kneaded, his not caring for her in the earlier stage can be a reason. I am not sure if a cat’s idea of her mother can be changed or not. So, if it, in fact, your cat kneads you because she thinks you are her mother, then I do not see much hope for your husband to be kneaded in the future.
There are some cats who do not like to knead on people who tend to move around a lot. It is not easy to withstand a cat when she thinks you are a piece of dough. So, any human may want to run away from the kitty if she tries to knead.
The reason why your kitty does not knead your husband is perhaps that she thinks your husband is not strong enough to hold still when she kneads. And the reason your cat kneads you and not anyone else is, that she feels comfortable as you sit still while she kneads.
Knead Before Nap!
Many cats tend to knead before they are going to take a nap. If your cat does not find her human friend to knead on, you will see her kneading on clothes or blankets before she travels to the dreamland of mice and cockroaches.
There is one popular opinion by some experts, that believes cat specially kneads before nap. They discard the previous ideas of kneading habits out of love or mother figure. They think while in the wild, cats have to knead the ground before they sleep to make it more comfortable, more like a hacked bedsheet.
So, you may conclude that when you are being kneaded on by your house cat, it is probably because she wants to sleep on you. The reason perhaps your cat is not kneading on your husband is because he is not around when your kitty wants a sleep. Next time, when it seems that your cat may take a nap (cats are lazy, they keep on taking naps the whole day) introduce your husband in front her and see if she kneads him or not. Interesting, Isn’t it?
What You Are Wearing Can Be A Factor
There is one opinion that says cat kneads on soft, cozy stuff. If you are always wearing soft and comfortable dresses like wool sweaters, loose shirts, it is probably because of this your cat is trying to knead you.
So, if you are still asking why does my cat knead me but not my husband, try to notice if your cat is kneading you whenever you put on cozy garments. Then you will know the hidden mystery behind kneading choice of your kitty.
Are You Her Most Favorite One?
It can very well be the case that, she prioritizes you over anyone else. Those who are kneaded on by their cats almost emotionally believe that they are his/her cats most favorite person. This particular theory believes, although the cat may grow a liking for other people there is one particular person (one true love) whom she should knead on.
Are you closer to your cat? Or is it your husband? Do you spend more time with her than your husband? If it is you who is staying close to her most of the time it can be that your cat has made you her most favorite object to be kneaded on. And, similarly, the reason she does not knead your husband is perhaps she does not regard him as his most favorite object to knead on.
The Reason Behind Gender Bias
If you are thinking cats only knead on a female and not on male, or vice versa, you are mistaken. There are many instances where cats knead both men and women. There is an idea of gender bias behind cats kneading choices, it’s true!
It could be that a cat prefers a female to knead on because the female most of the times does the feeding and looking after. Female are designed to be more patient and caring whether that is to humans or animals. They have this innate tendency to look after and play the mother figure. Not in humans, but also in the animal kingdom it is very common.
Interestingly, female cats are the ones who always look after her kittens, gives them milk and frequently licks them to keep them clean. The naughty male dad cats often lack affection for their children and they keep on busy doing other things instead of looking after their child.
So, if you look closely, it is not the gender, but the care that attracts a kitten to her owner. It is perhaps you who look after your cat more out of your motherly instinct, and your husband probably plays video games in his free time. So, this can explain why your cat is kneading on you but not your husband.
Liking Is Not Always Right Either
Differing the above-mentioned opinions and theories, this particular opinion concludes that, liking for an individual is not the sole reason behind your cats kneading choices. Cats do not always knead on people whom they really like or attached to.
Your cat or dog may choose to knead and nap on a newcomer, someone she has never seen before. Therefore, there must be something else involved behind her kneading choices. Although, this theory explains why your cat kneads, it fails to explain why it avoids one particular person (in this case it is your husband) in terms of kneading.
I have always said this; cats are strange creatures. You will Never completely understand a cat. She spends time alone, thinking about things you wouldn’t know. They are not your obedient pet like dogs either, they have a strong sense of individualism and pride. Carefree and nonchalant in nature, it is difficult to understand, as you have seen a single aspect of a cat. I have discussed many opinions above. You can pick the one that makes more sense to you and is happy knowing that. But in the end, only your cat knows the real reason, thus their mystery always remains unsolved but they help to keep us continuously engaged in, digging in and guessing their riddles and mysteries.